You’re planning to adopt yet you have so many questions… what shall you do?
Last week the cactus died and recently you remembered that you have fish to feed. Hubby is gung-ho about this adoption thing and infertility is a given. What to do?
Relax, take a deep breath. It's all going to work out.
Families who suddenly become parents and are suddenly thrown into a situation involving children report that something quite beautiful and extraordinary takes place and happens. We all have natural instincts we never really knew or know we possess until we have to use them. Remember that time you were great in a crisis? You didn't know you had it in you until you had to do it. Adoption is much the same.
It's such a scary concept. Will birth mother change her mind and come into your lives one day? Will this cutest little thing one day want to leave you and be with them? What about medical history?
Certainly there are things you have the right to know and in fact need to. The problem is will you ever be able to? Should this be an open adoption with birth mom? Should the kid even ever know if he/she has been adopted in the first place? What if you turn out not to be parent material?
The real deal is that regardless of adoption or not kids don't come with directions or guarantees. All parents make mistakes and the kids, mother in law and teachers will be more than happy to remind you of it on a daily basis. We all do the best we can as parents at the time with the tools we have. You're no different than anyone else.
Seek the support of friends and family members for help and advice. Check the phone book or internet for support groups and or chat rooms.
Again, relax, take a deep breath. It's all going to work out.
For more resources, check out theadoptshop.com!
By Rhandi Clarke -- an adoptive parent of two and lives in the sticks of Maine. She'd adopt seven more if Hubby, Luther, would agree to it!